Some things that I've been thinking over...part 1
Okay. The uploading of the PI pics is not going so well due to the on-again then off-again internet connection, or lack of, I should say.
Well, after calling my Arnold tonight and talking 'til the pre-paid card ran out, I googled the Island Cove Resort website (one of the hotels we stayed in during my trip). I remembered they offered wedding reception packages for their banquet rooms.
I've been thinking about marriage a lot lately. I'm engaged, but my man's not here. I'm planning to start the petitioning process to bring him over as a fiancee. I went to the immigration website and downloaded some PDF application forms. There's things he needs to give me as part of the application - I need 2 passport pics from him, birth certificate, etc. And I need to submit "evidence" to the immigration peeps - you know, proof that we are in love and such, like bills, letters, cards, pics, etc.
Anyhoo...back to what I was saying...thinking about a wedding is stressing me out. There's lots to consider...budget, place, time, guests, etc. I've never dreamed of a church wedding, but as I'm a Catholic, I'm told that I should get married in church in order to receive God's blessing and because marriage is a holy sacrament.
Okay. I've been away from my church for years. Trying to go back to the church has been hard for me. I've got issues, let's just say. Religion has always been and probably will continue to be an inner struggle with me, because of who I am, I guess.
Whenever I think of a church wedding, the word FORMAL always comes to mind. And I absolutely HATE FORMAL. I don't like big crowds. I don't have a gazillion friends to invite and I don't necessarily want to invite extended family. Wait, I don't want extended family, PERIOD.
I want things simple and clean. I want a succinct ceremony. IF I do decide to marry in church, I don't want a mass within the ceremony - my attention span is simply not enough for all that. I want people who are important to me to be there, not everybody's mom's uncle and 10 kids. I want a small wedding. I wanted one at the beach, at sunrise (like Maria's wedding), and have a breakfast reception, 'cause I love breakfast food and I don't want alcohol.
I want it to be casual - I mean, don't come in your underwear or PJ's, but don't come all dolled up either. I want it to be COMFORTABLE. Life is already stressful enough, I don't want to feel anxious or uneasy at my own damn wedding.
I want to be married both on Guam and in the Philippines - I want it to be fair - I want my family to see me get married, and since his family can't come here to Guam, I want his family to see us get married back there in his province. BUT, I want both weddings to be roughly the same - in size, in manner and in budget. I don't want my family to think I value his family more and vice-versa. In everything I do with him and his family, I want to be able to do the same with mine and vice-versa. I've already emphasized to Arnold that in whatever we do together, we must be fair and equal.
I realize that I earn more money that he does, but then again, I have more bills and have debt to pay, so in keeping with my "equality" condition, having an inexpensive wedding will be just fine for both of us :-)
So...I've been seeking out a lot of advice lately, mostly from my coworkers, since approx. half my day is spent at work. Now, I seek the advice of you, my friends :-D
I appreciate any comments and suggestions ^_^
Well, after calling my Arnold tonight and talking 'til the pre-paid card ran out, I googled the Island Cove Resort website (one of the hotels we stayed in during my trip). I remembered they offered wedding reception packages for their banquet rooms.
I've been thinking about marriage a lot lately. I'm engaged, but my man's not here. I'm planning to start the petitioning process to bring him over as a fiancee. I went to the immigration website and downloaded some PDF application forms. There's things he needs to give me as part of the application - I need 2 passport pics from him, birth certificate, etc. And I need to submit "evidence" to the immigration peeps - you know, proof that we are in love and such, like bills, letters, cards, pics, etc.
Anyhoo...back to what I was saying...thinking about a wedding is stressing me out. There's lots to consider...budget, place, time, guests, etc. I've never dreamed of a church wedding, but as I'm a Catholic, I'm told that I should get married in church in order to receive God's blessing and because marriage is a holy sacrament.
Okay. I've been away from my church for years. Trying to go back to the church has been hard for me. I've got issues, let's just say. Religion has always been and probably will continue to be an inner struggle with me, because of who I am, I guess.
Whenever I think of a church wedding, the word FORMAL always comes to mind. And I absolutely HATE FORMAL. I don't like big crowds. I don't have a gazillion friends to invite and I don't necessarily want to invite extended family. Wait, I don't want extended family, PERIOD.
I want things simple and clean. I want a succinct ceremony. IF I do decide to marry in church, I don't want a mass within the ceremony - my attention span is simply not enough for all that. I want people who are important to me to be there, not everybody's mom's uncle and 10 kids. I want a small wedding. I wanted one at the beach, at sunrise (like Maria's wedding), and have a breakfast reception, 'cause I love breakfast food and I don't want alcohol.
I want it to be casual - I mean, don't come in your underwear or PJ's, but don't come all dolled up either. I want it to be COMFORTABLE. Life is already stressful enough, I don't want to feel anxious or uneasy at my own damn wedding.
I want to be married both on Guam and in the Philippines - I want it to be fair - I want my family to see me get married, and since his family can't come here to Guam, I want his family to see us get married back there in his province. BUT, I want both weddings to be roughly the same - in size, in manner and in budget. I don't want my family to think I value his family more and vice-versa. In everything I do with him and his family, I want to be able to do the same with mine and vice-versa. I've already emphasized to Arnold that in whatever we do together, we must be fair and equal.
I realize that I earn more money that he does, but then again, I have more bills and have debt to pay, so in keeping with my "equality" condition, having an inexpensive wedding will be just fine for both of us :-)
So...I've been seeking out a lot of advice lately, mostly from my coworkers, since approx. half my day is spent at work. Now, I seek the advice of you, my friends :-D
I appreciate any comments and suggestions ^_^
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