I've a little sparkle in my life; TiCo is back from vacationing in New York!
Sorry about the long title...
I'm generally not a jewelry kind of gal. I grew up with Gramma always dolling up with makeup and jewelry and all, but I just never liked doing those things. I think Chet really takes after Gramma in that respect. As for me, I take after Gramma's love for things of brand-name fame. Granted, I don't own many brand-name things, but if I had my way, I would buy brand-name all the way. My opinion is that brand-name products are of higher quality, will last longer with proper care, and are more rewarding to own as you have to work harder to buy them.
So, as you know from the previous post, I ordered and am paying for a brand-name piece of jewelry - my engagement ring.
Just a couple of days ago, my Tiffany and Co. sales associate, Helen, rang me up and told me that "TiCo" (my adorable new name for the ring) had just returned from New York, where she had been resized to fit my huge finger.
TiCo is now in my possession - her vacationing days are over - she is now mine, and she is working hard for me everday, showing sparkles off of my finger ^_^
She's a little itty bitty thing - rock and setting and band and all, but she is on fire when light hits her - so much on fire that I tend to get distracted with her while driving! The sunlight causes her to sparkle so much rainbow and flash in my eyes. I find myself wanting to gaze at her whenever I have a free moment. I can't stop looking at her, actually :-P
The crazy thing is, I never cared for diamonds. I actually didn't care if my engagement ring had a diamond or not - I was even thinking of what other rock to have put on a ring. BUT...after being mesmerized by my TiCo, I cannot imagine not having a diamond as the rock :-P
So, since I first got her, I've been snapping many photos of her...I think I've figured out how to get less blurry, up-close pics of TiCo, but I'm still working at it...I just can't seem to get THE perfect shot of her. Thankfully, TiCo is not camera-shy:
me and TiCo
TiCo closeup
TiCo goes sparkle
enough pics for one night :-P
NOW...on to something else....
I've been thinking about my engagement ring...in our society, it's supposed to be the man to give the woman this ring, right? And, I've read somewhere that the ring should cost the man about 2-3 months salary. And I've also read that the more expensive the ring, the more concrete the man's intentions for marriage are.
So, was I wrong in buying this ring for myself? Honestly, my fiance cannot afford such a thing. But, I wanted it. I wanted to have this engagement symbol, and I wanted it to be something worthwhile. Sure, my fiance gave me a ring when I was in Baguio, but it is completely different in quality than TiCo. I'll just say it...it's completely inexpensive/cheap/not real. BUT, that's all the man could afford, so it's good enough....or it should be, right? And, I don't remember him telling me that the ring he got me in Baguio IS my engagement ring officially. So, I guess I took it upon myself to get me an OFFICIAL engagement ring. And, I'm assuming the ring he gave me in Baguio is like a PROMISE ring.
I guess what I've done here is a role-reversal. Or something like that. I believe, if I want something bad, I will work hard and get it myself. I don't want to wait on or depend on anyone else to do so. I knew what I wanted. I went out and got it.
Another thing I've noticed - I've probably resigned myself to the fact that I do make way more money than he does, and even when he's here on Guam and has a job, I still will make more money than he. I'm anticipating on footing the bill for our wedding expenses. I don't expect him to pay for anything wedding-related, 'cause I know he just can't.
Now...is this a bad thing to do and be? Or is this just the way it's got to be because of his circumstances?
I don't know.
All I know is that I love this guy, and he loves me. I guess we'll work out the money issues in time. But for now, I'm moving along with our future in mind.
I'm generally not a jewelry kind of gal. I grew up with Gramma always dolling up with makeup and jewelry and all, but I just never liked doing those things. I think Chet really takes after Gramma in that respect. As for me, I take after Gramma's love for things of brand-name fame. Granted, I don't own many brand-name things, but if I had my way, I would buy brand-name all the way. My opinion is that brand-name products are of higher quality, will last longer with proper care, and are more rewarding to own as you have to work harder to buy them.
So, as you know from the previous post, I ordered and am paying for a brand-name piece of jewelry - my engagement ring.
Just a couple of days ago, my Tiffany and Co. sales associate, Helen, rang me up and told me that "TiCo" (my adorable new name for the ring) had just returned from New York, where she had been resized to fit my huge finger.
TiCo is now in my possession - her vacationing days are over - she is now mine, and she is working hard for me everday, showing sparkles off of my finger ^_^
She's a little itty bitty thing - rock and setting and band and all, but she is on fire when light hits her - so much on fire that I tend to get distracted with her while driving! The sunlight causes her to sparkle so much rainbow and flash in my eyes. I find myself wanting to gaze at her whenever I have a free moment. I can't stop looking at her, actually :-P
The crazy thing is, I never cared for diamonds. I actually didn't care if my engagement ring had a diamond or not - I was even thinking of what other rock to have put on a ring. BUT...after being mesmerized by my TiCo, I cannot imagine not having a diamond as the rock :-P
So, since I first got her, I've been snapping many photos of her...I think I've figured out how to get less blurry, up-close pics of TiCo, but I'm still working at it...I just can't seem to get THE perfect shot of her. Thankfully, TiCo is not camera-shy:
me and TiCo
TiCo closeup
TiCo goes sparkle
enough pics for one night :-P
NOW...on to something else....
I've been thinking about my engagement ring...in our society, it's supposed to be the man to give the woman this ring, right? And, I've read somewhere that the ring should cost the man about 2-3 months salary. And I've also read that the more expensive the ring, the more concrete the man's intentions for marriage are.
So, was I wrong in buying this ring for myself? Honestly, my fiance cannot afford such a thing. But, I wanted it. I wanted to have this engagement symbol, and I wanted it to be something worthwhile. Sure, my fiance gave me a ring when I was in Baguio, but it is completely different in quality than TiCo. I'll just say it...it's completely inexpensive/cheap/not real. BUT, that's all the man could afford, so it's good enough....or it should be, right? And, I don't remember him telling me that the ring he got me in Baguio IS my engagement ring officially. So, I guess I took it upon myself to get me an OFFICIAL engagement ring. And, I'm assuming the ring he gave me in Baguio is like a PROMISE ring.
I guess what I've done here is a role-reversal. Or something like that. I believe, if I want something bad, I will work hard and get it myself. I don't want to wait on or depend on anyone else to do so. I knew what I wanted. I went out and got it.
Another thing I've noticed - I've probably resigned myself to the fact that I do make way more money than he does, and even when he's here on Guam and has a job, I still will make more money than he. I'm anticipating on footing the bill for our wedding expenses. I don't expect him to pay for anything wedding-related, 'cause I know he just can't.
Now...is this a bad thing to do and be? Or is this just the way it's got to be because of his circumstances?
I don't know.
All I know is that I love this guy, and he loves me. I guess we'll work out the money issues in time. But for now, I'm moving along with our future in mind.
Do what makes you happy. Why must a woman feel guilty for being able to buy herself something she enjoys? After all, she worked hard for it. I don't see many men feeling bad for buying themselves a sports car.
Never ever feel bad about the amount of money you earn. The point is that you EARN it. So long as the two of you are happy and comfortable - who cares who earns more money? Just be glad SOMEONE is earning it!
That's my two cents anyway.
Posted by
sabete |
7/01/2007 03:37:00 AM
thanks dude! I guess I never thought of it that way :-P You know, guys like him - from the "province" - tend to be very old-fashioned when it comes to the man-woman relationship/duties/roles...whatever it is called - he already has told me in the past that he felt inferior to me because he, the man, wasn't doing all the manly courting things he should be doing, according to their culture.
But I've already explained to him that I don't believe in such things, and that I really wish he wouldn't care about it - but, I can't control him or how he thinks :-P
So, for now, I guess he's doing okay. And I'm okay in doing things for him, because I'm the one capable right now. I'm sure in the future, he will be able to afford to treat me to nice things.
^_^ If not, I'll just keep treating myself :-P
Posted by
ronnie |
7/01/2007 10:25:00 AM